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Last week I posted a blog called, “Dear Scared White People” that I felt needed to be said, written and read. I knew that with that title alone, there were sure to be some negative comments. I have posted that blog before and the ridiculous comments I received were from people I could tell did not read it. This time I only received two adverse comments from people who took that time to read it (which I appreciate) before misconstruing EVERYTHING I was saying. But I digress, that’s not what this post is about. No, this post is about one particular from a gentleman who commented, “Race relations also aren’t nearly as bad as many people think. The world is not out to get you, and this was painful to read simply because it seems like an attempt to play victim.”
1.) Race relations ARE THAT BAD. If he truly looked around at what’s really going on in this world instead only focusing on HIS experience is in this world, he would see that.
2.) The reality star sitting in the White House playing, “pretend President” just tweeted that four congresswomen (who are all women of color) should go back to their home countries. Three of which were born and raised in America.
3.) RACE RELATIONS ARE THAT BAD.
But just to reiterate, that’s not what this post is about. This post is about the last part of his comment where he said my post seemed like, “an attempt to play victim.” Why is it that whenever anyone tells their truth in this world, the opposition always says that they are playing the victim. According to Webster’s Dictionary, a victim is, “One that is acted on and usually adversely affected by a force or agent. One that is subjected to oppression, hardship, or mistreatment.” Just to be clear, that blog post was not about, “playing the victim” in a big bad world full of racist bullies. (Hope you could pick up the sarcasm in my description of the world.) That post was about showing the facts as they are for African Americans in America. Period.
I have heard the word “victim” thrown around in other situations, not just race relations. Whenever a man or a woman speaks out about discrimination in all of its inglorious forms, to those who oppose, they are playing “victim.” The opposition says they are using the word as a “way for you to absolve yourself and other protected victim groups of the left of personal responsibility” as the gentleman above continued in his comments. Isn’t he a gem? (Insert hard eye roll here) By Webster’s definition above anyone who has been, “subjected to oppression, hardship and mistreatment” is a victim. Some people because of racism, sexism, sexual orientation, or their financial class in society. They are, by definition, victims.
The opposition (whoever is on the opposite of your position) seems to never take the time to hear what you are saying. This is usually because they are getting their rebuttals ready in their minds. They are digging deep in their cerebrum to compose thoughts to justify why you’re wrong and they’re right. And to find reasons why it’s, “not nearly as bad.” Calling someone a “victim” is a hell of a lot easier than dealing with the reality of the truth. And the one thing most of us humans fear the most (besides public speaking and death) is the truth. It forces us to take a deeper look at ourselves and those around us in a way that is often uncomfortable. I know that I have struggled with learning certain truths about myself and the way I think. But the one thing I don’t have trouble doing is hearing someone else’s truth, listening and empathizing. I may not be able to fully relate to their situation, but I don’t disregard it by claiming they are making an, “attempt to play victim.”
Everyone in this world is going through something at some time or another. And no one can speak to anyone else’s experience in this world because they can’t exactly walk in their shoes. Instead of quickly labeling someone a “victim”, why not take the time to find out what the world is like for them. Because just because you don’t see, doesn’t mean it’s not real. I’ve never seen our planetary universe with my own eyes, but I know it’s there.